“Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm; but to add colours to my sunset sky.- Rabindranath Tagore”. And I am blessed with these clouds in my life called Friends. There are four basic requirements of any relationship- Trust, Positivity, Consistency and Vulnerability; and we all have something to offer; however, we experience each of these requirements differ based on our unique wiring? And this unique wiring might contribute or limit your friendships. So on the eve of Friendship Day, which is globally celebrated on 3 August, I thought to pen this unique wiring I share with my friends. Well, after reading this they will say “Likhna kya h, Mar Thodi Gaye Hai”; but how do I explain that some emotions are easier to write than saying.
Before moving ahead with the sneak and peak on my friendships, it’s essential to get some insight of this day. We celebrate friendship day in honour of our friendships, their importance and value. But do we know how this started? It was initiated in the year 1930 by Joyce Hall, founder of hallmark cards; though the greeting card association first proposed it in 1920s-but, it met customer resistance. The first World Friendship Day was introduced on 30 July 1958 in Paraguay. If we look back into our mythology, marking the bond of friendship dates back to the 4th Century. Some friendships have rejoiced which transcended the limits of caste, creed or social status- Lord Krishna and Sudama, Lord Rama and Sugriva, Karna and Duryodhana Sita and Trijata or Lord Krishna and Drupadi.
But, sometimes I ponder on this thought- how life would have been without friends? Naah, let’s not think, it’s scary! Instead, let’s consider what if our life was like the Tv show F.R.I.E.N.D.S., like living with a friend across the door and tackling life problems together. Along with being sick & stupid- how fascinating isn’t. Considerably, this is fantasy, but the truth is we all have or want that 2 am friend, whom we can call or text with or without reason. As with time, people come and go, even relationships changes- only real friends remain unchanged. And I am fortunate, to have my 2 am friends with whom I can share my concerns, sadness, opinions, even celebrate or bitch- it’s indeed a blessing.
I feel its more dependable to have friends because as a person, I enjoy making friends. It does not even matter which category they fall into- could be acquaintances, casual friends or colleagues. But I continuously go back these bunches of annoying yet loving souls- Kunal, Utkarsh and Priyanka. What I love about them -I don’t need constant reassurance as I know they are always there for me. In that respect is no hidden agenda or expectation of returns from each other. We possess our own travel stories, to crazy parties or just singing along to our favourite songs like -Payar Hume Kis Mode PE Le Aya or Hotel California. They bring absolute happiness. The unique wiring I share with my rascals is like a typical Bollywood film- drama, emotion, action and suspense. Oh, they don’t mind me calling them scoundrels, as they are one with an angelic smile and soul as well.
Ah! Talking about Bollywood- the movies have given us primary friendship goals. It has clearly stated friendship as one of the significant bonds in our life, whether man or animal. This bind is unbreakable, irreplaceable, and something that moves beyond words; it has fights, arguments, sorrow, smile, happiness and tears. Yes, friendship is confusing at times; still, it’s an amazing bond. And Bollywood has beautifully portrayed this bond, its emotions as well its cruciality. And I love to binge-watch these flicks with my friends to reconnect. We hold our favourite which I am sharing; first is Sholay from the golden era of cinema- Jay and Veeru’s friendship amazing camaraderie was a genuine tear-jerker. We still employ the famous dialogue “Basanti In Kutto Ke Samne Mat Nachna” like a joke on one another. Another would be the three iconic characters Aakash, Sid and Sameer from Dil Chahta Hai or Rancho, Farhan & Raju from 3 idiots. Both movies showcased perfect bromance, sarcasm, calmness along with all stupidities possible. It conveyed we need to understand our friend and stand by them. Quickly, there are few more, and you can use them as an opportunity to grab you gang or best friend and reconnect- Zindagi Na Mile Dobara, Rang De Basanti, and Dor.
There is a comfort when you know; your inner circle is there – whether best or worst days. This circle has your back, to pen them down its about impossible as there are so many emotions. If one is like sunshine, then the other is like rain or breeze. “Our presumption about life rarely matches with realities. The truth is that when we give some love, we receive the same- Rabindranath Tagore.” And this how I exactly feel for my bunch of Rascals. Talking about Priyanka, she is like rain that waters the flower of my soul. Always with a composition of rhythmic music, letting my heart dance to it, fresh smell of soil encouraging me of a bright day. You can never feel disheartened around her, always sassy & optimistic with her famous dialogue -Apun Toh strong Hai!
One the other hand Utkarsh, he is the sun of my sky shining bright & radiating all warmth. With him around no mountains too high or trouble that difficult to overcome. A burst of sunshine who understands how much heat to share. And Kunal, well, we go days without talking, months without seeing, but his friendship wraps me like air, reminding me to fly. He has inspired me to be like a free-flowing breeze or a storm to achieve my aspirations. However, there is one particular friend I would like to add, because of whom I exist, she taught me at the same time learnt with me too- yes my mother. But honestly, this friendship takes work – hard work at times! And we all work towards this goal as they are our emotional Punchbags, the rock that keeps us grounded, the safety net we could fall back to and they also know when to set us straight with some harsh truths. Friendship is the act of selfless love!!
The journey of life, with its highs of happiness and lows of loss and suffering, would be unbearable without the continual presence of friends – the shared expedition easing the load, doubling the joy.
These friends are like the open sky or the open window of our life, where we seldom feel the breeze, sunshine & rain, cutting us away from this hectic lifestyle. Lastly, I want to thank these beautiful souls for being with me, for inspiring me, loving me and also bearing my frequent mood swings. You are the minions of my life.
I am sharing a piece for all my friends and my annoying rascals.
Friendship is not about staying close, but it’s about continuing beside.
It’s not about speaking lies to make happy instead showing the truth to be solid.
Friendship is not about rushing off from our mistake; It’s about working on them.
Friendship is not to changes with time, but change the time with togetherness.
To ask, How are you? Even though life is busy is friendship.
It’s not about selfies in the bright light, but holding hands in the lonely nights.
Friendship is like oxygen for life.